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Is there any way to see the personalized message associated with a friend request, after the request has been accepted? I can't find the message anywhere.

It's happened a few times that I accept a request using the top toolbar "Friend requests" feature, and notice only after accepting it, that the person had written something. Would be nice to see what it was.

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I have the same question! I received a friend request today that had a note about my daughter - the friend is traveling overseas with her. I got really excited and clicked the "accept" button and now the message is gone :( Is there any way to find it? – user9608 Mar 23 '11 at 16:18
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According to this Facebook topic it seems like there's no way of retrieving the message that was attached to the friend request.

As a last resort, if you have the original notification email still in your inbox, the message might be there?

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Nice, I didn't think about looking for the email ... checking now, but it appears I don't get emails about it (my own notification settings). I think I'll re-enable these notifications. – ripper234 May 19 '12 at 16:49
Damn, the setting is uneditable for some reason. – ripper234 May 19 '12 at 16:51

Go to the page of the user (who should be in your friends list by now) and just click the message button on the top right.

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