I have people following me that I follow, people who follow me who I do not and people who I follow but who do not follow me. Is there a way to see those three lists?
The people you follow are in your Circles.
The people who are following you but you are not following them are in the Added you area. Select the "Not yet in circles" option.
It's not all that easy to see the people you are following that aren't following you (except for those who are not using Google+).