With the new Facebook layout (timeline, etc.) friend requests are made with one click (the old pop-up box doesn't show up anymore). I tried to send a friend request to someone I hadn't seen in a while with a personal message included but I didn't see an option to do so. Where did the option to send a message with a friend request go? Or is it just gone?


Facebook has removed that feature (Sending a message during a friend request). Instead, you can message that person just before or after you make the friend request. The Message button is located near the Add Friend button.

enter image description here

  • 2
    But that won't help. Because facebook sends all the messages from NOT friends to SPAM – Abhijith Sep 16 '12 at 11:33
  • +1 to Abhijith's comment. Notification of messages going to those you are not currently friends with on Facebook, being put it a "different" inbox, is provided near the bottom of the New Message window. However, whether it was once called "SPAM" or not, it is now called "Other" and is found to the right of "Inbox" once the messages tab is open. – user66001 Apr 26 '14 at 1:50

I know how to send a message without a message button it is simple - Put this in your URL bar https://www.facebook.com/messages/[id or name] and you can send a message right away with friend request send or without.

  • 2
    This doesn't answer the question – Rebecca Dessonville Oct 18 '12 at 20:37
  • It seems to work. – user19533 Sep 21 '13 at 8:34
  • it is just sending a simple message. It will go to the requests section.. this is not helpful – Zeshan Sajid Aug 30 '16 at 16:53

protected by phwd Apr 9 '13 at 1:51

Thank you for your interest in this question. Because it has attracted low-quality or spam answers that had to be removed, posting an answer now requires 10 reputation on this site (the association bonus does not count).

Would you like to answer one of these unanswered questions instead?

Not the answer you're looking for? Browse other questions tagged or ask your own question.